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		<title>The 2011 Ladies Tea</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; Join us at the 2011 Family Reformation Ladies Tea! The theme of this year&#8217;s tea is Idols of the Heart: Learning to Worship God Alone. Be refreshed and renewed with inspirational teaching, testimonies, music, and fellowship, as well as a delicious lunch! Be inspired and encouraged as… Becky Morecraft (wife of pastor and speaker, [...]]]></description>
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<p>Join us at the 2011 Family Reformation Ladies Tea! The theme of this year&#8217;s tea is<br />
<strong>Idols of the Heart: Learning to Worship God Alone</strong>.</p>
<p>Be refreshed and renewed with inspirational teaching, testimonies, music, and fellowship, as well as a delicious lunch! Be inspired and encouraged as…</p>
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<li>Becky Morecraft (wife of pastor and speaker, Dr. Joe Morecraft, mother, and grandmother)</li>
<li>Hope Ware (former radio personality, now full-time wife and mother)</li>
<li>Tiffany Hector (homeschooling grad, wife, and new mother)</li>
<li>Stacy McDonald (wife, mother, and part-time author and speaker)</li>
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<p>…explore ways we women may harbor hidden idols in our hearts.</p>
<div class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 310px"><img title="Good Friends" src="http://familyreformationladiestea.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/mg_5896.jpg?w=300&amp;h=200" alt="" width="300" height="200" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Good Friends</p></div>
<div class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 310px"><img title="What a dessert table" src="http://familyreformationladiestea.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/mg_5786.jpg?w=300&amp;h=200" alt="" width="300" height="200" /><p class="wp-caption-text">What a Dessert Table!</p></div>
<div class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 310px"><img class=" " title="Inspirational Speakers" src="http://familyreformationladiestea.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/mg_5773.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="200" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Inspirational Speakers</p></div>
<p>Check out photos from last year’s tea <a href="http://yoursacredcalling.com/blog/2010/07/2010-ladies-tea-photos/" target="_blank">HERE</a></p>
<p>Not just good food, but an entire day of rich Christian fellowship interspersed with inspirational messages &amp; elegant entertainment for everyone. Explore together the importance of guarding your heart from the temptations and snares of the world, and joyfully surrendering all to Jesus!</p>
<p><strong>Location:</strong> The elegant Snyder Village ballroom &#8211;  1200 E. Partridge &#8211; Metamora, IL 61548</p>
<p><strong>Date and Time:</strong> July 23, 2011 &#8211; 10:30 am to 4:30 pm</p>
<p><strong>Cost:</strong> $25.00 per person (or $70.00 per family) &#8211; Includes a delightful gourmet  lunch</p>
<p><em>Scholarships may be available to those in need. </em></p>
<p><strong>Registration: </strong><em><br />
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<p>You can register online <a href="http://2011ladiestea.eventbrite.com/" target="_blank">HERE</a>!</p>
<p>Or, download and send in your completed <a href="http://providencepeoria.org/documents/LadiesTeaRegistration.pdf" target="_blank">registration form</a> and check to:</p>
<p>Family Reformation Ministries<br />
PO Box 19<br />
Kingston Mines, IL 61539</p>
<p>If you would like to print out the flyer and to give it to your friends, <a href="http://providencepeoria.org/documents/2011_LadiesTea.pdf" target="_blank">click here</a>!</p>
<p>Give us a call at 309.387.2600 if you have any questions. We hope to see you there!</p>
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		<title>Hide the Kids, the Pastor&#8217;s Here!</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you are reading this article, there is a very good possibility you have a family. And, there is a very good possibility you go to a church. Both of these institutions, the family and the church, are listed in the title. Given that, I want to ask you to honestly consider a couple of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you are reading this article, there is a very good possibility you  have a family. And, there is a very good possibility you go to a  church. Both of these institutions, the family and the church, are  listed in the title.</p>
<p>Given that, I want to ask you to honestly consider a couple of  questions. Why do you take your family to church? What is your  motivation? Is there something that you desire to see the church do for  your family, specifically your children? And, if so, how do you expect  that to happen?</p>
<p>As Christians, we desire to see our households growing in grace! We  want our children living for Jesus! As the Apostle John said in 3 John  4, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.”  To this, I say, “Amen and amen!” But if that is the case, let me address  a sin that has been with the church since the fall of Adam – the sin of  familial hypocrisy. We are a group of hypocrites – and we refuse to  admit it.</p>
<p>I may have lost a few with that statement; but, friends, please hear  me out. When we say we want to see our families changed by the power of  the Gospel; when we say that we want to see our children walking in the  truth; why is it that we hide our sin, and our children’s sin, from the  ones who may be able to help – the officers of Christ’s church.</p>
<p>One of the things I learned early on in ministry is this – folks  don’t like surprise visits from the pastor. People want a little notice,  a little time to straighten up the house, to make sure the “right”  books are out on the coffee table, to make sure that dad and mom are at  peace with one another, and to make sure all the children are in their  color coordinated outfits and sitting in an age ordered row.</p>
<p>Then there are some who try to dress up their sin—who strive to hide  household conflicts or areas of ungodliness in their lives. They hope  that if everyone smiles enough the pastor won’t notice.</p>
<p>With all this prep work out of the way, the pastor is then told how  much everyone loves the church, the worship, and, of course, the  sermons. This façade lasts until the pastor leaves – and then everyone  returns to business as usual.</p>
<p>But does this help anyone? Does this approach lead to generational  faithfulness? Are we teaching our children to embrace the Gospel of  Jesus when we effectively teach them to lie about who they really are –  and, who we really are?</p>
<p>The answers are obvious. Our children are weakened. And so are we.  Instead of reflecting the beauty of the Gospel, we are teaching our  children to be Pharisees—whitewashed tombs.</p>
<p>Why do we put on our holy masks instead of seeking help from the  church? There are many possible reasons. One is that we are afraid what  our friends might think. If we allow the pastor to know how sinful we  really are, perhaps he won’t like us. Or we possibly think that pastors  really can’t help anyway.</p>
<p>We’re not doing ourselves or anyone else any favors by pretending our  children are perfect. We’re not fooling anyone either—at least no one  that counts.</p>
<p>Jesus has gifted His church with officers called elders to assist us  all in our Christian growth. They are to be there to teach us, to pray  for us, to correct us, to instruct us, to pray for us, and to comfort  us. And yet, like the man who would ignore the symptoms of a dangerous  disease by refusing to see a doctor, we often choose to ignore the  terminal sin in the heart of our son or daughter, or in our own heart,  and pretend it doesn’t really exist.</p>
<p>Friends, what is this teaching your children? Do you believe they are  blind to your tendency to cover-up and camouflage the real issues and  problems in your home? Can you not see that by your behavior you are  teaching them to become deceptive hypocrites themselves? They are  learning from you that Christianity is not really about transformed  hearts, but about a shiny image. They see you more worried about the  outside of the cup rather than the inside. Therefore, they will either  embrace a similar empty faith – or they will run from it completely,  preferring the consistently “dirty cup” over the white washed fake one.  In the end, your children will become embittered toward you and  embittered toward the faith.</p>
<p>Are you availing yourselves of the full ministry of the  church—seeking to bring our children up in the nurture and admonition of  the Lord? Are you praying with them and for them? Are you teaching them  the beauty of the Christian faith from God’s Word? And are you setting  an example of Christian godliness before your children? This would  include asking their forgiveness when you sin, and trusting in the  advice and counsel of the elders of your church.</p>
<p>Friends, many of us claim to be Christians, but do we really live  like it? I encourage you to ponder these words; and, if you find that  you have fallen short, go to the Throne of Grace, seek Jesus today. Ask  Him to change you, and then watch how He polishes your cup—from the  inside out.</p>
<h6>Originally published in November/December 2010 issue <a onclick="javascript:_gaq.push(['_trackEvent','outbound-article','www.highlandsstore.com']);" href="https://www.highlandsstore.com/subscriptions.cfm" target="_blank">Every Thought Captive</a> – are you a subscriber?</h6>
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		<title>Should “She, Obey Him?”</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[God’s Word inevitably conflicts with the plans of man. For instance, the Word directs us to acknowledge the God of the Bible as the One True God—we are to have no other gods but Him. Yet the sinful heart of man is inclined to persistent idolatry, seeking to satisfy our need to worship and find [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>God’s Word inevitably conflicts with the plans of man. For instance,  the Word directs us to acknowledge the God of the Bible as the One True  God—we are to have no other gods but Him. Yet the sinful heart of man is  inclined to persistent idolatry, seeking to satisfy our need to worship  and find assurance in anything and everything but the God of the Bible.</p>
<p>God’s Word tells us to love our neighbor as ourselves. Therefore,  we’re commanded not to steal, murder, or bear false witness. Yet men are  perennial thieves, liars, and gossips who trample one another in an  effort to elevate their own image or status. The Scriptures teach that  adultery is sin, yet men and women continue to be unfaithful and deal  treacherously with one another. God’s Word tells children to honor their  father and mother; yet one can simply turn on the television or walk  through any shopping mall to see that the world is far from compliant  with this command.</p>
<p>All of God’s commands have been continuously broken since the fall of  man. Our hearts are full of “evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications,  murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil  eye, blasphemy, pride, and foolishness” (Mark 7:22-23). Without Jesus,  we are in bondage to the sin we claim to hate. Of course, we’re liars,  because we really love our sin.</p>
<p><strong>Rebels from the Start</strong></p>
<p>We are born rebels. In the Fifth Commandment, when God calls for  children to honor their parents, He is teaching us that He is the  ultimate source of all authority, and that He has the right to delegate  that authority according to His providence, in the home, in the church,  and in the civil realm. It is for our good and His glory.</p>
<p>Still, we make all sorts of excuses for why we shouldn’t have to be  under anyone’s authority. We piously claim we are under the authority of  God alone; but too often we nullify that claim by refusing any real  accountability.</p>
<p>When we are taught as children to honor our parents, we are better  able to honor authority in other jurisdictional spheres; and ultimately,  we are better able to honor the Lord. The <em>Westminster Larger  Catechism </em>demonstrates the extension of this principle:</p>
<blockquote><p>Who are meant by father and mother in the fifth  commandment?</p></blockquote>
<blockquote><p>By father and mother, in the fifth commandment, are  meant, not only natural parents, (Prov. 23:22,25, Eph. 6:1–2) but all  superiors in age (1 Tim. 5:1–2) and gifts; (Gen. 4:20–22, Gen. 45:8) and  especially such as, by God’ s ordinance, are over us in place of  authority, whether in family, (2 Kings 5:13) church, (2 Kings 2:12, 2  Kings 13:14, Gal. 4:19) or commonwealth. (Isa. 49:23)<strong></strong></p></blockquote>
<p><strong>Submission in Marriage</strong></p>
<p>The Bible is clear. God has established a polity—a government in the  home. By God’s decree, the husband is to be the head of the wife, and by  default, the ruling authority in the home (i.e., Genesis 2:18-25, 3:16;  1 Corinthians 11:3; Ephesians 5:23, 6:1; Colossians 3:20). It is clear  that this polity was established during the time of Creation, before any  secular culture had been formed. The polity of the home is by God’s  appointment—by His decree and for His glory.</p>
<p>Within the home, the Lord instructs wives to submit to their own  husbands (Ephesians 5:22-24, Colossians 3:18). It is interesting to  note, the Word does not direct a woman to submit to men in general, only  to her own husband (who happens to be commanded to sacrificially love  her). This is important because within the Christian faith women are  rightful heirs with their husbands of the grace of life (1 Peter 3:7).  Indeed, before the throne of God, men and women stand as equals,  rejoicing side by side in the finished work of the Savior (Galatians  3:28). Individually, men and women are heirs according to the promise.</p>
<p>And yet, within the home, wives are called to submit to their  husbands. Nowhere does the Bible call on husbands to force their wives  submit to them. The instruction comes from the Lord directly to wives.  There is no more a command for men to make their wives submit than there  is a command for women to force their husbands to love them!</p>
<p>Submission begins when a Christian wife recognizes Christ’s love for  her and responds with a willingness to obey Him in all things. Then,  even though it may go against the norms of society and the desires of  the flesh, He calls her to submit to her own husband’s leadership in the  Lord. And, in submitting to her husband, she submits to the Word of  God.</p>
<p>Husbands are also charged in Scripture—they are commanded to love  their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25-30), sacrificing,  serving, defending, nurturing, leading. Husbands are called to live  with their wives in a gentle and understanding way, recognizing their  inherent differences (1 Peter 3:7).</p>
<p>Men are called to remember that a wife is a great treasure (Genesis  2:18; Proverbs 18:22, 19:14, 31:10) to be appreciated and cherished. She  is given by God; so, together, they might become one flesh (Genesis  2:24), moving forward in unity to fulfill the mission God has given  them.</p>
<p>Biblical submission is a beautiful expression in a Christ-honoring  marriage. Remember, a Christian wife is a daughter of the King, and a  slave to no man. Her service to her husband is a reflection of her  willing service to her Lord and King, Jesus.</p>
<p>If a woman forced her husband to love her, we would easily recognize  the fact that she was not truly loved at all. Whether or not this  husband claimed love with his mouth, we would all know that it was  bondage that forced his words. Love can only exist in freedom. He must  choose to obey God and sacrificially love his wife, whether or not she  is lovable; and in so doing, he makes it easier for her to obey God.</p>
<p>The same is true with biblical submission. If a man forces his wife  to submit to him, he has created a slave. But when a wife, by God’s  grace, and out of obedience to her Lord and King, willingly submits to a  fallible husband, she is a servant—a servant of the Lord and a blessing  to her husband. She has yielded her will to the will of her Father for a  heavenly purpose. And in so doing, she has made it easier for her  husband to love and lead her.</p>
<p>A Christian wife’s submission in marriage is thus not one of  mechanical compliance to a husband’s every whim or desire. If a wife is  to truly help and complete her husband, she will often need to provide  input on important decisions, and even respectfully challenge a  husband’s conclusions at times. However, as long as the husband’s  requests are not sinful or unreasonable, a wife should respectfully  follow her husband’s lead, even when she is unsure whether or not a  decision he has ultimately made is the wisest choice.</p>
<p><strong>Sinning Husbands</strong></p>
<p>But how far does submission go? Sometimes “helping” a husband means  confronting him. The Lord often uses those closest to us to help us deal  with the sin in our hearts. Biblical submission does not mean that a  wife cannot seek help from her elders or other God-ordained authorities  regarding a husband’s sin. Christian husbands are sinners, even if they  are sanctified sinners.</p>
<p>But this begs the question: What if a submissive Christian wife  confronts a husband with his sin, and he doesn’t listen? Or even worse,  what if a husband asks his wife to sin? Or what if he sins against his  wife or children through cruelty or neglect? Does a Christian wife have  any recourse in such a situation? Or should see quietly suffer along  with her children while her husband increasingly grows out of control?</p>
<p>In an effort to create their own self-serving domestic kingdom, there  are men who have used the Holy Scriptures for personal gain—they have  used verses on submission (given to wives) to justify their warped  version of domestic tyranny. Some erring church leaders and teachers  have instructed women to obey their husbands even to the point of sin  (the assumption being made that God will intervene at the last minute).  Horror stories of forced abortion, adultery, perversion, pornography,  and incest have all been cloaked under the excuse of “submission.”</p>
<p>In some cases, true abuse has been shamefully overlooked and excused  by those who should be protectors and guardians of the sheep. One  desperate wife and mother appealed to her elders, only to be sent home,  chastised for dishonoring her husband, and blamed for not being  submissive enough.</p>
<p>This is why rightly dividing the Word of Truth is crucial.  Husbands  are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Jesus would never  ask His Bride to sin. Can you even fathom Jesus physically or verbally  assaulting His Wife?</p>
<p>Wives are called to submit to their husbands <em>as to the Lord</em>.  How do we submit to the Lord? Willingly, selflessly, and cheerfully.  Wives are to submit to their husbands in all the same ways she would  submit to the Lord. And the Lord would never ask His Bride to sin.</p>
<p><strong>Accountability</strong></p>
<p>There are times when a Christian wife must disobey her husband. She  is not called to submit to him in areas where he is walking in  unrepentant sin. In times like this, a Christian woman can and should  avail herself of the other spheres of jurisdiction that God has  established—that of the church, extended family, or, when necessary, the  state. God uses these means to restrain evil.</p>
<p>There are indeed biblical precedents for the practice of going to a  different jurisdiction when faced with a sinful situation. Abigail, when  married to Nabal, went to David and interceded for her foolish husband  (1 Samuel 25). In essence, Abigail went beyond her immediate authority  to correct a dangerous situation that her husband had brought about. By  her actions, she saved her people from death. In Daniel chapter 6,  Daniel disobeys the proclamation of King Darius concerning prayer to  God. In Acts 5:29, Peter gives that courageous proclamation, “We ought  to obey God rather than men.”</p>
<p>And so, there are times when a wife not only can, but <em>must</em> seek help from a higher God-given jurisdiction. These jurisdictions—of  home, church, and state—do not stand as isolated islands; they are  interconnected powers that work together for the glory of God and the  expansion of His Kingdom.</p>
<p>But what should we say of the husband who is not under church  authority; who perhaps refuses to attend a faithful church; who has  isolated his family and set himself up as lone prophet, priest, and king  for the family? What should a wife do in such a case? I believe a  Christian wife must follow the Lord. If a husband keeps his family from  assembling together for an extended time, and shows no sign of  committing to a church, a wife may prayerfully and respectfully appeal  to her husband, letting him know that she must find a doctrinally sound  church where she and their children can be accountable—and protected  (Hebrews 13:17). She may also explain to him that by keeping her from  the accountability of a church body, he is asking her to sin (Hebrews  10:25); and she must obey God rather than man (Acts 5:29).</p>
<p>When aligned with the principles of God’s Word, the Christian family,  comprised of husband, wife, and children, is a beautiful expression of  godly order, sacrifice, love, and Gospel expansion. Therefore, we have  an obligation to live within the bounds of biblical authority; otherwise  we have lawlessness, chaos, and tyranny.</p>
<p>Our call as Christians is to obey the commands of the Lord, even when  they are not considered culturally relevant. This includes biblical  submission to authority; and, regardless of station, we are all under  authority—authority which exists for God’s glory. The Fifth Commandment  was given along with a promise, “Honor your father and your mother that  your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving  you.” (Exodus 20:12) As we train our children, we must instill in them  an understanding of the consequences and magnitude of this important  mandate from God. As Christians, we all desire that our children know  the peace of God, and the God of peace. But do we fully understand that  this blessing often comes as children see the God of peace manifested in  the actions of parents? It is much more than what we say—it is far more  in what we do (Phil 4:9).</p>
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		<title>Bitterness: An Addiction of the Soul</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Aug 2010 03:19:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled…&#8221; (Hebrews 12:14-15) Bitterness is a common sin within the sons of Adam and the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>&#8220;Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without  which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short  of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause  trouble, and by this many become defiled…&#8221; (Hebrews 12:14-15)</p></blockquote>
<p>Bitterness is a common sin within the sons of Adam and the daughters  of Eve. It is one we often try to hide, at least for a while. But  bitterness, like holding one’s breath, can’t be detained for long. In  the end, it overtakes us and becomes our constant focus. A most hated  and beloved idol, bitterness is the cancer that consumes. It is a  self-destructive sin that triggers an addictive adrenaline rush that  floods our being. And, like most addictive behaviors, when out of  control, it leads to our destruction.</p>
<p>I have seen the impact of bitterness throughout my life. As a first  generation Christian, I grew up in dysfunctional home where bitterness  reigned unchecked. My father was bitter against my grandfather for  sending him to boarding schools rather than loving him. My mother was  bitter against my father because of his alcoholism and abusive behavior.  I saw bitterness growing in my siblings, a learned response from our  parents. I felt the almost intoxicating pain of bitterness in my own  soul. Reminiscing back on my younger days is a painful exercise, mostly  because the memories are filled with the agonizing results of  bitterness.</p>
<p>But, then, Jesus sought me. I didn’t seek Him; I was consumed with  myself and the unfairness of life. I was an angry, bitter man until  Jesus overwhelmed me. He showed me my own wretched sin; and, in those  fiery flames of grief and sorrow, the bitterness melted. As Jesus  forgave me and pulled me out of my grief, I learned the meaning of  forgiveness. When I saw my own sins for what they were—sins against a  mighty and holy God, my perspective changed. I found myself able to  extend to others what I had freely received, the healing balm of  forgiveness.</p>
<p>But as time went by, I found the old man sneaking back in. He still  tries. Even as Christians, we may find ourselves dealing with  bitterness. Simple affronts, unaddressed, worm their way into our  thoughts and soon become an unwanted obsession. Left unchecked, the  effects of bitterness begin to take root in the soil of our souls to  poison every part of our lives.</p>
<p>Often, we superimpose our own past or secret sins upon others. We  certainly know what “we” would mean if we said “that.” Assumed offenses  cause chaos and misunderstanding; people talk past one another and  feelings are hurt. Emotions rage. Instead of dealing with issues, weeds  grow and become deeply entrenched. Christian adversaries may smile as  they pass one another at church or online, but inner vows of broken  fellowship broil out of sight. Our pain attempts to justify our  bitterness. We make a mental list of our offenses, and remind ourselves  of our “rights.” We take comfort in the number of people who would  surely agree with us.</p>
<p>I’ve experienced bitterness. I know how it works. I remember one  instance when the Enemy deceived me into believing I was justified in my  sin. I had been hurt. I had a right to be bitter. But God didn’t let me  rest. In my quiet time, not long after my conversion, He spoke. I read  some challenging verses. It began when I first read through the Book of  Ephesians.</p>
<p>I remember the day when God broke me. I was sitting outside of church  in my good old 1974 Nova when I read in Ephesians 4:31–32 “Let all  bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from  you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted,  forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”</p>
<p>I was convicted. I was cut to the quick. The process of  sanctification can often be a painful thing. This is especially  true we  are confronted with a sin we hate, yet at the same time guard and love.  This verse shouted out to me. “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger,  clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.” This  was not a suggestion, this was a command! “Let all bitterness be out  away from you!” It was right there before me. God was speaking to me.  The Holy Spirit was convicting me. I was bitter and angry.</p>
<p>Although I might couch my words in righteous “Christianese,” I would  indeed speak evil of my neighbors, even my brothers and sisters in  church. And, even though I was now a Christian, I recognized that  familiar, intoxicating feeling of bitterness, and it was still in my  heart.</p>
<p>I remember being frustrated as I started to evaluate verse 32. “And  be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as  God in Christ forgave you.” Again, more commands. Be kind to the one who  hurt me? Be tenderhearted to the one who seemed so hard hearted and  hard headed? Forgive? How could I do that? Was it even possible?</p>
<p>But I continued to read the final section of verse 32, “…even as God  in Christ forgave you.”</p>
<p>As I read God’s Word, there are times when I feel like I am  undergoing open heart surgery without anesthesia. This was one of those  times. The text spoke to my heart, “…even as God in Christ forgave you.”  <em>Even as God had forgiven me. Even as God had forgiven me.</em> I knew  God had forgiven me. I was fully aware of the sins of my youth, the  things I had done against others, the things I had done against the  Lord. The weight of my sin had been very heavy. And yet, through Jesus,  God had forgiven me!</p>
<p>I remembered how Jesus had come for me, a sinner—how He had forgiven  me, a stubborn, rebel. Again, He made the first move. And He did it  without my groveling, without my penance, without my suffering. God had  forgiven me because of the finished work of His Son. As I looked up from  the Word, and at the door of the church, I prayed for the Lord to  forgive me, and to help melt my bitterness. I asked Him to help me  forgive and love those who had hurt me, intentionally or  unintentionally. And He did.</p>
<p>Over the past 31 years with Jesus, I can’t say that I have never felt  the temptation to be bitter. I still live with and work with, well,  sinners. There are many opportunities to be hurt, and there are likewise  many opportunities for me to hurt others. Yet, God often brings to mind  that moment so long ago in the parking lot with Jesus. I remember the  day, I remember my car, but most importantly, I remember the words of  Ephesians 4:31-32.</p>
<p>Consider your own heart. Are you harboring offenses against a brother  or sister? Are you dealing with bitterness against someone in your  past? Are you aware that bitterness (regardless of who it is against)  will consume you and harm those closest to you? Have you considered the  fact that bitterness is a sin? Jesus forgave you—are you not willing to  extend a small amount of that grace to someone else?</p>
<p>Don’t walk like the Gentiles, because you’re not one. Let go. Cough  it up. Give up your bitterness—lay it at the feet of Jesus. Put off the  old man and put on the new. “Forgive one another, just as God in Christ  forgave you.”</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;If indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by  Him, as the truth is in Jesus: that you put off, concerning your former  conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful  lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on  the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness  and holiness.&#8221; (Ephesians 4:21-24)</p></blockquote>
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		<title>Check out the new Providence Church webpage!</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Jul 2010 14:23:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>James McDonald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[http://www.providencepeoria.org/ I will be writing there as well. So, if you are interested in my ramblings, you have two places to visit. Let me know what you think of the new site!]]></description>
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<p>I will be writing there as well. So, if you are interested in my ramblings, you have two places to visit.</p>
<p>Let me know what you think of the new site!</p>
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		<title>Where Socialism Belongs</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Jul 2010 01:40:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>James McDonald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The concept of socialism is rightly repugnant to many, especially those of us who have been reared in the individualistic United States. If anyone with a biblical worldview considers the government takeover of corporations and industries, from banking institutions and automobile manufacturers to the health-care market, they will be rightly disturbed. Many of us open [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The concept of socialism is rightly repugnant to many, especially  those of us who have been reared in the individualistic United States.  If anyone with a biblical worldview considers the government takeover of  corporations and industries, from banking institutions and automobile  manufacturers to the health-care market, they will be rightly disturbed.  Many of us open up our newspapers or web browsers with a sense of  foreboding – we are not sure what the government will be eyeing next.</p>
<p>That said, there are principles of socialism that are not in and of  themselves evil or horrendous. However, when these principles are  applied to unauthorized jurisdictions we have a problem. While socialism  doesn’t work in the civil realm, specific applications can and should  be made in the Christian family. Let’s consider a few of socialism’s  distinctives, rightly applied:</p>
<p>First, there is the concept of sharing. One of the problems we have  in society in general is that we are a selfish lot. We want the biggest  slice of the proverbial pie, and we want it <em>supersized</em>—and free.  One of the reasons we are becoming a society beset with one entitlement  program after another, is that the concept of sacrifice and servanthood  have not been taught at home.</p>
<p>A Christian family teaches the concept of sharing because it is  foundational to our faith. When we learn to share biblically, we seek to  put the needs of others above ourselves. We learn to “esteem others  better” than ourselves, looking out for the “interests of others” as  well as our own (e.g. Philippians 2:1-11).</p>
<p>Learning to share is something that should happen early in the life  of a child, and it is realized best in the midst of an active loving  Christian family, where we can look to the Savior for the ultimate  example.</p>
<p>We can teach our children to share even in the simple things. At our  house, when we share a container of ice cream, we typically choose a  child to be the server. The one important rule is that after all the  bowls are filled, the server must choose his bowl last. It’s amazing how  “even” the mounds of ice cream are! This is one of my favorite lessons  for the children – partially because we really like ice cream.</p>
<p>Another distinctive of socialism is the concept of the common purse.  As we look through the Bible, we see the idea of households being  blessed, specifically in material ways. And the blessings were for a  purpose—the advancement of the Kingdom.</p>
<p>There is a multi-generational aspect to familial blessings throughout  Scripture. Abraham was blessed, that he might be a blessing to all the  families of the earth (Genesis 12:3). We read in Proverbs that a wise  man leaves an inheritance for his grandchildren (Proverbs 13:22). The  wealth of the father in Luke 15 was shared between the sons, the  prodigal and the one who stayed home (Luke 15:11-31).</p>
<p>This again is something that should be taught in the context of the  family. A family may work and save together to attend a conference or  Christian event. Children may work and contribute to various family  needs or activities. Another family may sacrifice or save for a ministry  need or missionary outreach. This sort of activity teaches far better  things than a father who is focused only on a new bass boat or a wider  wide screen television. The concept of the common purse is not always  bad.</p>
<p>There is also the concept of common work. Of course, there are,  within the household, specific tasks that are delegated to individuals  depending on age, ability, and gender. But, a common project is a  wonderful way to teach the value of community, where everyone comes  together to accomplish something beyond any one member.</p>
<p>One creative and fruitful project is that of the family garden. When a  family comes together to take dominion of a small square of land, all  share in the resulting proceeds. Father and son till the ground and  remove the rocks. Mother and daughters plan the rows and plant the  seeds. All come together in the evening to weed and tend the garden (or  not, as has often been the problem in our poor attempts at a garden).</p>
<p>And then, for the successful lot, at the appointed time, harvest and  celebration! In the process, children learn that an investment in  biblical work is part of the dominion mandate, and that all members of  the family can participate for the glory of God.</p>
<p>There are many other examples that we could draw upon to show that  the concepts of socialism, the sharing of things in common, belongs in  the jurisdiction of the family. But there is one more common thing that I  would like to mention, and that is our common faith.</p>
<p>The Lord said of Abraham, “For I have known him, in order that he may  command his children and his household after him, that they keep the  way of the LORD, to do righteousness and justice, that the LORD may  bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him.” (Genesis 18:19). This verse  speaks to the sharing of the doctrine of truth. Note here, Abraham  didn’t give his household a choice in who they would serve. They were  commanded to serve the Lord. And also note, this faith was not just  something that Abraham said with his lips, it was a reality Abraham  lived out daily – it was seen in Abraham’s example.</p>
<p>Socialist ideals in the hands of the state are an ugly thing.  Additionally, Socialism has no place in the Church. Still, there are  concepts of socialism that are beneficial for the Christian family. And,  by the Grace of God, properly lived out, the result is a faithful  Christian family that understands the concept of sharing, working, and  serving together for the advancement of the Kingdom.</p>
<h6>Originally published in July/August 2010 issue <a href="https://www.highlandsstore.com/subscriptions.cfm" target="_blank">Every Thought Captive</a> &#8211; are you a subscriber?</h6>
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		<title>God Guides Grooms and Brides (and the rest of us too)</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Jul 2010 03:15:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>James McDonald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This past Lord’s Day, we went through Genesis 24, a chapter that details the early days in the relationship between Isaac and Rebekah. This is a fascinating story of what some might see as a series of serendipitous occurrences that chronicle the quest for a bride for Isaac. But it is not luck, it is [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This past Lord’s Day, we went through Genesis 24, a chapter that details the early days in the relationship between Isaac and Rebekah. This is a fascinating story of what some might see as a series of serendipitous occurrences that chronicle the quest for a bride for Isaac. But it is not luck, it is not chance, it is not a series of fortunate events that lead Abraham’s trusted servant to the right well at the right time to meet the right girl, it is God’s amazing providence. And His providence guides us all, every day, as well.</p>
<p>In addition to God’s hand clearly at work in the lives of these individuals, we also see a number of principles for courtship demonstrated in this chapter. Courtship is the application of time tested principles in helping a young man and a young woman enter into a successful marriage. And it stands in opposition to modern dating, which for the most part has proven to be both dangerous and reckless. That said, I point out that there is no “biblical process” for courtship to happen, but there are certain principles that can help guide young people and their parents to enter into the covenant of marriage in a way that honors this fundamental union. I try to go through some that are found in the text.</p>
<p>Here is a <a href="http://providencepeoria.org/audioSermons/GodGuidesGroomsAndBrides(AndTheRestOfUsToo)(McDonald)Genesis24.mp3" target="_blank">link to the sermon</a>. And here is a <a href="http://providencepeoria.org/Documents/GodGuidesGroomsAndBrides24.pdf" target="_blank">link to the application guide</a>.</p>
<p>I pray this sermon, or the rest in this series, are a blessing to you. If you are ever in the area, feel free to come by and worship with us at <a href="http://providencepeoria.org" target="_blank">Providence Church</a>.</p>
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		<title>Confused about the emergent church?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Jul 2010 14:15:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>James McDonald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is a great short video on the emergent church movement. Postmodernism has infected Christianity like a cancer &#8211; and is impacting even churches that once preached the Gospel without compromise. Doug Eaton gives 10 warming signs that could help you spot postmodernism or emergent tendencies in a church you may be visiting. My advice [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is a great short video on the emergent church movement. Postmodernism has infected Christianity like a cancer &#8211; and is impacting even churches that once preached the Gospel without compromise. Doug Eaton gives 10 warming signs that could help you spot postmodernism or emergent tendencies in a church you may be visiting.</p>
<p>My advice &#8211; run!</p>
<p>[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mFI-J8Z4rpo]</p>
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		<title>Faithful Scottish Presbyterians&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Jul 2010 16:20:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>James McDonald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[These two videos highlight the zeal of the church of my forefathers &#8211; a zeal that is alive today. While I don&#8217;t agree with every practice of the Free Church of Scotland, I have always appreciated the uncompromising stand for the Gospel of Jesus by this faithful denomination. And you have never experienced the Psalms [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>These two videos highlight the zeal of the church of my forefathers &#8211; a zeal that is alive today. While I don&#8217;t agree with every practice of the Free Church of Scotland, I have always appreciated the uncompromising stand for the Gospel of Jesus by this faithful denomination. And you have never experienced the Psalms until you have heard them sung in Gaelic. Hauntingly reverent.</p>
<p>There are multiple parts of this documentary. I&#8217;ll attach the links to the others below&#8230;</p>
<p>[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ur4bYwB97MU]</p>
<p>[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kOY0BsnmMx0]</p>
<p>[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6sHqwkoemE]</p>
<p>[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eA9YnFdnnhY]</p>
<p>[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tjQyGaupgFU]</p>
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		<title>All is Well &#8211; a new song by Robin Mark</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Jun 2010 22:14:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>James McDonald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I just heard this song by Robin Mark. A powerful message of the sovereignty of God. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z07ArXGi-s4] He lowers us to raise us So we can sing His praises Whatever is His way All is well He makes us rich and poor That we might trust Him more Whatever is His way All is well [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I just heard this song by Robin Mark. A powerful message of the sovereignty of God.</p>
<p>[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z07ArXGi-s4]</p>
<blockquote><p>He lowers us to raise us<br />
So we can sing His praises<br />
Whatever is His way<br />
All is well</p>
<p>He makes us rich and poor<br />
That we might trust Him more<br />
Whatever is His way<br />
All is well</p>
<p>All my changes come from Him<br />
He who never changes<br />
I&#8217;m held form in the grasp<br />
Of the Rock of all ages</p>
<p>All is well with my soul<br />
He is God in control<br />
I know not all His plans<br />
But I Know I&#8217;m in His hands</p>
<p>He clothes us now then strips us<br />
Yet with His Word equips us<br />
Whatever is His way<br />
All is well</p>
<p>And though our seasons change<br />
We will exalt His name<br />
Whatever is His way<br />
All is well</p></blockquote>
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